HER2 Support Group Forums - Cancer is back...I just knew it.

Rats, Chelee! That SUCKS! You must be so scared and confused. However, you managed to get a good plan of action going straight away. That's really impressive.
Get those second, third opinions and decide on what feels good to you. Does your present onc work with you on that basis? I hope so! Check out dr. Slamon, as he's given you good advice in the past.

About your husband: I bet he is as scared and confused and upset as you are. He just went into denial, probably. Sometimes it's harder to handle this kind of news for people around you than you would expect. I'm not saying he was right, just that he obviously loves you very, very much, or he wouldn't be this upset.

I hope he realizes that he let you down and apologizes. My husband never went with me for the appointments. I couldn't deal with his fear.
Just once, when I went for a checkup, I was standing by the side of my car and said: I'm so scared! I never say things like that, so he asked: do you want me to come along? I really have an important appointment and three people are waiting for me. I said: cancell the appointment. He did and came along and never said a single word. He needed me to spell it out for him, or he would never have come with me.

Hugs

Jacqueline