HER2 Support Group Forums - Wouldn't we all be better off without this person?

Not sure where to post what's been happening to me and hubby lately. Thought it might be safe here since Lee has the power to 'banish' people. (not? :)

My husband's first girl friend of 3 - 4 years (from 8th grade through 11th, 1/2 year after his family moved 45 miles away) got hold of us through her sister's interaction with my Brother-in-law on Facebook (I know - isn't Facebook wonderful/powerful/terrible? :) After going through 3 divorces and finally married another old 'classmate' (who had a secret crush on her in high school and they got connected through classmate.com) 6 months ago, she decided to find hubby and tell him why she had broken up with him when they were 17.

Her Mother had 'ordered' her to break up with hubby because she thought they were too 'serious' together. Because her 3rd Brother, who is two years their senior and hubby's best friend - both were on the track team - had gotten his girl friend pregnant before they went to college, her Mother thought she should date other people so she wouldn't get too serious with hubby.

Since hubby was very close to her brother and her late father (a physician and 'the nicest guy I've ever met', according to hubby,) she did not want to tell the truth and hurt hubby's relationship with the two guys.

She and I had e-mailed back and forth for a couple of days before hubby finally dictated a short e-mail telling her it was nobody's fault (Hubby is the rare bred that doesn't use Internet/computer.) It was an emotional event for both of them.

She has also been through treatments for a rare type of cancer and is now in remission. Her first husband (the father of all her three children) had died of a heart attack three years ago at 49.

I was feeling like an accomplished 'volunteer counselor' but was soon scolded by one of my local friends saying that I was 'playing with fire'. It was just impossible to explain it to her. So I thought I would post it here and hopefully get a 'pat on the shoulder' from Lee. :)

I'm thinking about becoming a licensed counselor as well. It seems that as soon as a 'stranger' learns about what I've been through, he/she automatically respects my opinion. Not? :)

Oh, yes, the topic was about 'banishing' someone. I was just trying to present a case about the deep psychological effect on people who'd either banished or been banished. For those of you who have 'teens' at home, please seek counseling before you 'make' your daughter/son break up with their girl/boy friend. It could probably cut down the divorce rate in this country.

Certainly it could have gone the other way and made hubby her first 'ex'. I probably do have her to thank for leaving me a wonderful man like hubby. God works mysterious ways.

Having cancer and/or having 2nd chance after remission affects most of us deeply. All of our life events rush back to us when we are faced with a serious illness. Whether or not we will triumph in the situation depends on a lot of factors. I'm just really grateful to Joe, Christine, and all my wonderful Her2support brothers and sisters. Your support not only has helped me conquer cancer, it has enabled me to conquer life.

Thank you.