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I am very sorry to hear of your dear moms passing. I lost my mom to BC 18 months before I was dxed and know it's painful.

Thanks for letting us know.

Please remember a mother's love NEVER dies. It stays in your hearts forever.

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How blessed your mom was to have you by her side. That takes enormous strength. You should be proud of yourself!

You will never look back and regret and that is a gift.

You two fought an amazing battle. It seems the cancer was just too far ahead of you, on so many fronts, to catch a break. And focusing on the HER2+ aspect and not the very daunting positivity of your mom's hormones is a lesson for all of us. Cancer has many faces, many components.

I have 2 daughters. I was 50 when dx and I have asked them to begin mammograms for a base line reading in their 30s. Now in their 40s they do annuals, and one does an ultrasound as well.

I also believe strongly that the first of each month we must all examine our own breasts. I never had a lump. A marble or a pea. I had a general hardness of my entire left breast. I did not know that ANY change whatsoever should be immediately looked after. I never thought I had cancer.

I did move my annual mammo up and make an appt w/my GYN. I thought it must be a cyst. I had never had a single lump. Turned out what I had was a 9 cm tumor -- lobular (vs the more common ductal) which is deeper and more aggressive.

When I recurred, the bc was throughout my liver. My blood work reflected a very slight elevation in liver enzymes. 3 mnths later, it was noted without concern by my docs. 3 mnths after that, when it was again mentioned without need to worry, I stood firmly and asked for an ultrasound. This led to a CT scan which led to a biopsy.

We must actively participate in our own wellness.

So as a mother, I am asking you, Deb's daughter (I wish I knew your name) to take good care of yourself. This is what I tell my dghtrs, not to scare them but to arm them well...

With love,
ANDI

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I, also, am sorry to hear of your mom's passing. My mom passed away on Feb. 14, Valentine's day, the month after I started chemotherapy 10 years ago. It's difficult to lose your mother and my thoughts are with you.

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I am so sorry for your loss my dear. I will keep you in my prayers. I know how hard this is, as I have gone through this myself. I hig you in the distance.

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i'm speechless. I am so sorry. I am very close to my mother and I would be completely lost without her. And I think she would be completely lost without me to. I hope you can take it day by day and know that we are all here thinking of you. Your mom was such a lovely lady

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I'm so sorry to read this. She thought of you especially in her ability to beat this. You were always her reason for fighting so hard. Thank you for letting us know. She loves you so much and wants you to be happy no matter what.

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I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. I was pulling for her. I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain. I'm sending hugs to you.
Cathy

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My heart breaks with you and for you! I am so sorry to hear of your loss...know I am praying for comfort and peace in the continued days. Huge Hugs!

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So sorry to hear about your Mom's passing.

Adriana.

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Dear Debsing's daughter,
I am so, so sorry your Mom is an angel now. In one of her recent posts she wrote she couldn't bear to leave you, her daughter. She loved you to bits! You have been an amazing pillar of strength to her.

I think she felt her end was near, but she fought on regardless. May she be at peace now.

I do understand your anger at cancer. The wound is still fresh; the disease took your precious Mom. But in time you will come to terms with it. You have done everything you could to help her fight cancer, but we, as human beings, do not have enough knowledge yet to always beat the disease. I try to focus my anger, my frustration and my energy on finding ways to help future patients beat the disease.

I wish you peace and the strength to handle this sad loss.

Hugs

Jacqueline

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Dear Debsing's daughter,

I am so very sorry for your loss. We treasured your mom, and she treasured you. Thank you for letting us know what happened, and for reaching out to us.

Sharing sadness doesn't make it go away, but it can lighten the burden. You are welcome here any time. You're family.

All the best,
Amy

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Blessings to Debsing and her brave daughter. I love how the two of you fought together. I am sure she felt stronger with you by her side. I am so sorry that she is not by your side right now. She will be watching and helping from above. So sad for you. Take good care of yourself and reach out to your friends and family.

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Dear Debsing's Daughter, blessings to you at this very difficult time. Your mum was very fortunate to have you and the love you shared.
Marie

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i wish i could hug you. i am so very sorry. You have to carry her in your heart and listen to what she is wanting for you all thru your future. My heart goes out to you. And to the two women who posted here including kristen saying they lost their moms close to the time of their cancer journey. how many times did i wish my mom had still been alive when i was having my treatment. a mother stays inside a heart forever. deeply imprinted. you will never really lose her. please keep the faith, as bonnie says.

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So sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy to you and your family and friends.
big hug
sarah