It's happening

[loveher]

My dad called me and told me to come home from college immediately.
hospice said its a matter of a day or two. She's been in a coma stage, very stiff since this morning.

I feel numb...

[Mary Anne in TX]

Sue, I'm so very sorry to hear your news about your mom! Your family is in my prayers. ma

[Jean]

Dear Sue,
My heart breaks for you. I remember when I was dx. my son was in his sophmore year of college. It was a difficult year and the year following with treatment.

I am so sorry to hear this news about your Mother.
These are painful days and I wish I could lift some of your pain.

My heartfelt prayers are with you and your entire family.
Your mother id a fortunate lady to have such a fine daughter.

Kindest Regards,
Jean

[Chelee]

Sue, It's times like this that there never seems to be the right words...other then to tell you how sincerely sorry I am to hear this news about your Mother. She is so blessed to have had such a loving, caring, daughter by her side throughout this...it makes a world of difference. My heart just breaks when I hear of someone going through such a difficult time like you are. I will keep your family in my prayers. Sending you a big heartfelt hug...wish I could do it in person.

Chelee

[sassy]

Dearest Sue,

There is nothing anyone can do to take away the pain and grief you are dealing with, but you can be comforted by the knowledge that you have been a wonderful daughter and a source of comfort, strenght and support for your mother.

My thought and prayers are with you. Please know that we are all here for you, anytime you need us. PM us, e-mail us call us. We will be here for you.

[Yorkiegirl]

AWWW Sue I am so very sory to read this message. Just know I am saying prayers for you and your family during this difficult time.

[ammebarb]

Dear Sue,
I am so sorry for the pain and sorrow you must be experiencing. When my mother passed away a friend thought to tell me that while I would always hurt over her death, the pain wouldn't always be so severe. I really needed to hear that my loss would eventually become bearable. I pray for your comfort as you and your family grieve your mom's passing. Another friend told me that my greatest tribute to her would be to live my life well, and eventually with joy. I believe that is so. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Barb A.

[Believe51]

It's happening here too. The nurse called and told me to expect the rapid decline that happened overnight.

We will do this together Sweetheart and please use my yahoo e-mail to contact me. My message box here is full again and I have no energy to empty it.

I am so sorry that you and your family have to go through this. Let's think that they will go to heaven together so they can keep one another company.

My heart hurts so bad for you. Bug hug.

[Laurel]

Sue, I am so sorry your mother is ebbing away. I am certain she is leaving her love for you and all your family behind in your hearts. You will be in my prayers.

[Paty]

Dearest Sue,

My heart is with you at this terrible moments. My prayers are with you and your family. I understand how you are feeling sweetheart. Sending you a big hug.

[Debbie L.]

Numb is normal. Some wisdom within you will allow you to let the hard stuff in, as you're able to take it. The important thing right now is that you're with your family if that's possible, and that you're all supporting each other as best you are able (no judgment - some are more able than others at this point and that's fine). This is a long process - confronting this loss and the grieving for it. One small step (heading home to be with family) at a time. Hospice will help it to be less scary (but alas, no less sad).

Sending loving thoughts to you (and to Marie - one of those filling her box).

Debbie Laxague

[lisajones4]

Sue - Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Sending warm thoughts and a big hug.

Lisa

[Sherryg683]

With your mom and Ed going through this now, I am so sad and sorry. sherry

[caya]

Sorry this is happening Sue. Sending you big hugs from Canada.

all the best
caya

[Ruth]

Sue:
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Ruth

[ElaineM]

I am sorry to read your news. Yes. By all means stay close to your mother. She will know you are with her even if it does not appear that she knows. Hugs.

[Joan M]

Sue,

Sorry to hear about your mom. Wishing you comfort.

Joan

[loveher]

Thanks everyone, the support here really does help me get through things, you guys have helped me through so much.

I 'm home now and the hospice nurse is not here very often, I was wondering if anyone knows whether hospice usually sends someone in for extended period of time at this stage?

[Brenda S]

To LoveHer and Believe,
You have the heartfelt sympathy and empathy of those on here who have been where you are going. Time helped me heal when my sister-in law fell victim to this horrible disease. I prayed for you this morning.
Brenda.

[LoriE]

I am so, so sorry this is happening to your family. My thoughts are with you.

[GemmaG]

Dear Sue,
Sweetheart, you're a wonderful daughter. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm sending lots of love and prayers.
Love,
Gemma

[suzan w]

sad news indeed...my prayers for you and our family are on the way xo Suzan

[Leslie's sister]

I'm so sorry for you. I know that your heart is breaking. What an awful thing to be going through at such a young age. You are in my prayers.

Lisa

[WolverineFan]

Dear Sue,

My heart just breaks for you when I read your post. I don't know of any "right" words to say, but please know that the people on this board truly do care. My kids are nine and five, and I pray that they will not be in your shoes at such a young age as you. You have been through so much, and have been a wonderful support system for your mom. I know she must be so proud. Your mom will be with you ALWAYS, and I believe you will always be able to feel her presence.

I know I am far away, but truly, if there is anything I can do, please let me know. Until then, please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless,
Hayley

[tricia keegan]

Sue, there are no words but I'll praying for you all as you face this.
We're here for you. ((((hugs))))

[schoolteacher]

Sue,

I am so sorry to hear what is happening. You and your family will be in my prayers.

Amelia

[DanaRT]

Big hugs to loveher and believe. Such a difficult time. Prayers and warm thoughts heading you way(s).

Love,
Dana

[Sheila]

Sue
You and your Mom and Family are in my prayers....knowing how difficult this time is. Sending strength and love....you need to ask hospice to stay longer if you need them....i believe they will come anytime and stay as long as needed. What a lucky Mom to have a daughter like you.....a big hug

[chrisy]

Sue,
I have no words...just prayers for you and your family at this time.

Peace,
Chris

[vlcarr]

Dearest Sue,

I have a daughter who is 25 and has been by my side since the beginning of my journey. Speaking as a mother, I can tell you that your Mom loves you very much and she hates that you are having to go through this more than she hates that she does.

But, I also know how very proud of you your mother is just like I am of my daughter. I'm amazed at the strength and courage she has shown and I know your mother feels the same.

Please know that you are both in my heart and how sorry I am that you have to go through this.

[loveher]

My mom passed yesterday morning 11 am. I havent actually slept so it feels like it happened today.

It was very peacefull. Not at all how it is in the movies. We were all by her side. Her blood pressure lowered and her breathing became more and more difficult until she decieded to finally take a rest from this long long journey.

I've been feeling a mixture of things. I feel sad, i felt frustrated with the world, some moments i still feel like i need to call the doctors and ask about tumor markers and scans but I've also had moments where i felt a lot of relief. at the actual moment it happened i felt relieved.

It's been an unbelievable 10 years. all these years of fighting with set backs and victories. a lot of tears shed. through everything i have seen the ultimate show of strength from my mother. I don't think strength has to scream really loud or boast i think strength is the determination to fight against seemingly insurmoutable odds. My friend texted me and reasurred me that my mom won her battle a long time ago. And i believe it. In my heart my mom is my hero. She's taught me so so much about life, about love. I don't feel like she's gone, she's definently still here.

I'm so glad i found this board. I hope everyone here who is battling this disease will give it all they've got. There's nothing to be afraid of.

love
-Sue

[Karen Wheel]

Sorry to hear your news. You and your family are in my thoughts and sending peace and good energy to you and yours...
Karen

[Savta]

Deepest sympathy for your loss. May you be comforted by the wonderful memories you carry in your heart of your courageous mother. And be assured that your love and support gave her the strength to fight the fight.
Prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.

[MJo]

I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry you are experiencing this so young, while you are in college. I am grateful for what you said about heroism being steady and quietly determined. Your mom gave us all a lesson. God bless you and your family.

[caya]

Dear Sue,

Sorry to hear you mom's passing, glad it was peaceful. You mom definitely was a great warrior, and inspiration to all of us.

I have 2 college age daughters myself, and I intend to give it all I have, as you say.

May you find comfort knowing your mother is at rest now.

all the best to you and your family
caya

[vlcarr]

What a beautiful tribute your words are to your mother. Wishing you peace and understanding in the upcoming days and weeks ahead.

[ammebarb]

Dear Sue,
Sending along my most sincere sympathy and a wish for your solace in this difficult time. Your mom has left much of herself in you. I know you will feel her love for you for always.

Barb A.

[Soccermom]

My prayers are with you as well,Sue..
Marcia

[Gerri]

Dear sweet Sue,

I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your mother to this horrid disease. I lost mine at the age of 12, so I really do know of the hurt you are feeling. You will miss your mom so much at the defining moments of your life, but know this, she lives on in you and will be there for eternity.

You are an amazing young woman Sue. My prayers to you and your family.

[alicem]

Sue,

I agree with Vicky, what beautiful words you wrote about your mother, I know she is proud of you. Any of us would be proud to have someone like you for a daughter.

I still remember the day my mother passed away. I sat in my car in the hospital parking lot watching people go about their lives as usual. I wanted to scream and shout at everyone saying "My Mother just DIED!! You need to stop and mourn along with me!!". . . it was not an ordinary day for me.

That was 10 years ago. On the anniversary of her death, I made her famous oatmeal chocolate chip cookies and felt her presence in the kitchen like never before. As I bit into one that was fresh out of the oven, I started bawling my eyes out as memories came flooding in. The pain never really goes away, but it does get easier. Thank God for our memories. May you experience the peace that only He can give.

I send my deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Love,
Alice

[WolverineFan]

Sue,

You are nothing short of amazing. I am so deeply saddened for your loss, but I know your mom is so very, very proud of to have you as a daughter. What a true testament of loyalty and love you are.

God bless you through this difficult time, and may he give you and the rest of your family strength, comfort and peace.

Please keep in touch.

Hayley

[Shobha]

Sue,

I am praying God will give you strength to carry on and the love you have for your mom will give you peace and joy for ever.

hugs,
shobha

[WomanofSteel]

Sue, my deepest sympathies to you and your family. Remember all that you mother taught you and she will always be with you. Live your life with the same strength and determination that she did. I am sure she is and will always be proud of you. I wish you peace.

[Jackie07]

Sue,

It is important to be with our loved ones on the journey every step of the way.

I was with my Mother-in-law during the last night she spent on this earth. My Sister-in-law took over at 10 pm and stayed with 'Mom' until her very last breath early next morning.

As my Father-in-law (and my own Father) likes to state:
It's more important to have treat the loved ones right when they are with us than to spent a huge sum on the funeral.

You have been a wonderful daughter to your Mom, as we all have been witnessing here. I pray (and believe) that you will go through the next stages with the same kind of grace and strength you have been demonstrating to us.

'Love never fails'. Your love for her will last forever...as will her love for you.

[Diane H]

Dear Sue, your words brought a flood of tears to my eyes. How beautifully you have written. I am so sorry that you have lost your Mom, may you and your family find peace and comfort.
With love,
Diane

[Yorkiegirl]

Dear Sweet Sue, please know that you and your family are in my prayers for you during this most difficult time.
Sending you many hug's.

[Mary Jo]

I just came upon this thread and wanted to offer you my sincere condolences. Life can be so hard...but in the end Loves wins out!

For your mom, I'm happy her battle is over and she is now at Peace. I pray for God's Peace and Love to surround you all.

Love and Peace...

Mary Jo